My 4 year olds night terrors…

My daughter has had night terrors since about 2 ½ years old but they were very spread apart. Lately she has been having them rather frequently. She has been having them every 2-3 weeks. It never fails; she seems to have them on the nights that I go to bed early.
I talked to a friend today and she said that the worst thing you can do is talk to the child while they are having these. My husband and I constantly try to ask her what is wrong and she goes hysterical. I guess I will try anything so maybe just holding her or lying with her may help her calm down more?

Anyone have any suggestions? It is so hard to be dead tired in the middle of the night and not get upset when she does this. I would like to know what works before our second child goes through this faze. Anyone else heard anything that works?

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Debbie Meyer’s Green Bag review…

I decided to try Debbie Meyer’s Green bags because I was sick and tired of my fruits and vegetables spoiling before I got a chance to use them.
My review:

I totally LOVE them for vegetable, they are great. The vegetables last at least the entire 2 weeks between pay checks and I love that they stay fresh. I do not like them for avocados though and I will explain as it is for the same reason I will no longer use the bags for my fruits.

Why do I dislike them for my fruits? There is something that the bag is made out of that actually seems to get into the taste of the fruits and it is nasty. I bought avocados, tomatoes, and pretty much every other type of fruit and they all have the same “bag” taste to them. I love bananas but not when they come out of the green bag. It only takes about ½ a day for the taste to get in there too.

It does not seem to be there when you cook the vegetables so that is why I still use them for anything that I will eventually cook. I have also noticed that the lettuce does not seem to pick up the nasty bag taste so I use them for my lettuce as well. It seems to only be bad with the fruits.

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Our child’s education begins at home…

My 4 year old has been getting the education on the difference between the male and female anatomy ever since her brother was born. It is funny because it took her a few months before I got the question “what is that on Brahnan Mom?”
My husband and I talked about this before the baby was born because we knew he was a boy and that we would have many toddler questions. However, my husband and I husband do not see eye to eye on how to answer these questions. Some aspects we agree on but not all of them.

My husband asked me what we should tell Rae what the male anatomy is called, I said “uh penis, what else?” He said “I am not comfortable with that can we call it something else?” I said, “NO.”

Why are people so embarrassed to call it what it is? Why should we wait and let other people’s children and the school system educate our children when it comes to everyday life. Even though my husband said he did not agree with it I did tell my daughter that boys have a penis and girls have a vagina. This reminds me of the 80’s movie kindergarten cop and it makes me chuckle every time she says it.

I know that this is an ongoing challenge for parents but I really do believe that as parents it is our turn first to educate and the schools and friends should definitely come 2nd or even 3rd or 4th. By the time our kids our old enough to attend school they have already been mis-educated and it is a nightmare to try and undo the mis-education they have received.

We should not be nervous or embarrassed to teach our kids. It has been shown time and time again that those kids that are more educated at home have fewer problems with teen pregnancy, STD’s etc and etc. I am not going to be embarrassed to answer my kid’s question. This only makes children stop asking their parents questions because they know they won’t get an answer or it is hard because the adult gets embarrassed and they rely on their friends. I don’t want them relying on other kids their age.

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Is baptizing infants and small children the best time…

Let me say first and foremost that everyone has their own opinion and I do not judge anyone that chooses to raise their kids the way they do and I am not criticizing anyone’s religious choice, I am rather making conversation about choice. It has been a question in my head/heart for many years and I am simply just blogging a few thoughts about it.
I have always wondered why churches and those attending church baptize at such a young age and actually why we baptize children at all. If we are not “allowed” to disobey our parents and their choices until we are 18 (technically) then why do we baptize as infants and small children.

I know that the catholic religion baptize infants and the LDS (Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, aka “Mormon’s” note: not to be confused with the fundamentalist Mormon’s) baptize at age 8. I am not 100% sure on all religions I am just familiar mostly with these two.

Isn’t joining something suppose to be a choice (a human right)? What is the argument/reasoning around baptizing such small humans?

I was told when I was 8 that I was old enough to decide if this is what I wanted. Seriously? At the time I just did it because that is what you do, I never thought about doing anything different. I remember getting a big party out of it and some presents and that seemed very cool at that age, but honestly I did not really get the whole idea. I knew what the church told me “sins being forgiven” etc. what sins I had at age 8, but never really understood the “choice” part.

I am just curious to see what others think about this and the reasoning behind it? I personally (my opinion only) will let my children choose their religious beliefs and if they want to be baptized when they are an adult then so be it. If they ask me before they are an adult and mature enough to be able to think through it clearly I will simply tell them that they need to wait until they know for sure.

I share my beliefs with my daughter and will with my son as well. I do tell them what I know about God etc and hope that they will choose to believe as well but I do not want to be one of those parents that feel like I have failed in everything if they do not choose the same as I do. As long as they grow up to be good adults and do not hurt others intentionally and have a strong belief system and learn faith then I will know that I have accomplished something very amazing with my children.

I know this is a loaded post and I don’t want to offend anyone, and I am sure I will, but know that is not the case. I have asked this question so many times in the past and never really got a good answer from anyone rather than “that’s what we do.” Seriously, this is the church answer I got for years.

Anyone feel free to chime in!

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Can vision change for the better the older we get…

OK so I am freaking out today, well not really “freaking” but I am so baffled. I think I may be my own medical miracle today and here is why.
I have had glasses since I have been 16 months old. I have had 2 eye operations to open up my eyelids, one at 16 months and one when I was 8 years old. I have had horrible vision always in both eyes, but worse in my left eye. I have a lazy eye that is my right eye (even though it is lazy my vision in typically better).

When I am pregnant, which I have been 3 times, I do not wear my contacts at all, only my glasses. The reason why is that my contacts tend to dry out a ton more when I am pregnant and it bothers me so much that I can’t see spending the extra money for the contacts.

It is a really tough time financially for us right now because we are on one income and a family of four with massive medical bills. I finally broke down and had my first eye test and contact fitting since I found out I was pregnant back in December 2008. I have always been a bit blurry in my left eye with my glasses but thought that it was just due to the fact that I am always a bit blurry with my left eye.

I got a new set of contacts 5 weeks ago and my left eye was normally blurry and my right eye was a lot clearer with them. When I went into the eye doctor she thought that maybe changing the contact in the right eye by 10 degrees would help. Yesterday I got the new contacts and my right eye is 100% more clear and feels great. I thought that maybe she changed my left eye to as it was so much worse and I could not see anything and was getting massive headaches from how blurry it was.

I came home from my dance class and took out my contacts and it was amazing clear in my left eye when I took it out and blurry in my right eye. I immediately put my glasses on and could see better out of my right eye but my left eye was as blurry as it was when I had my contacts in and it was driving me crazy. I went on and off with the glasses all night long and got such horrible headaches from wearing them and not wearing them and each was due to a different eye when I had the glasses on and off.

I figured that when I got up this morning things would be back to normal as maybe I scratched my eye or something. When I got up this morning I put my glasses on and the same problem exists as last night. I cannot see any eye irritation from and infection or from a scrape. I called my eye doctor and they told me that my left eye contact did not change at all. Baffling? Aw yes! I have an appointment at 11:00am tomorrow.

I decided to try and wear my right contact only and nothing in my left eye since I cannot even do glasses with the left eye right now. Wouldn’t you know it; my vision is pretty darn clear with only the right contact in? This is so strange.

So did my eyes change during pregnancy like they say? Did I just not notice it because I was so use to the blur with my glasses? What happened in less than half a day going from the first pair of contacts to the second? I am so baffled and dumb founded right now. Will this change last, will I only have to wear one contact now and if so for how long? I am just overwhelmed with question and concern today. It would be nice to only have to pay for one contact instead of two, but the frustrating part is that if this is a permanent change then I cannot get any relief with glasses anymore which is nice to wear instead of contacts sometime?

Update tomorrow after the eye doctor. I would LOVE to know if anything similar has happened to any of you. I have heard of eyes getting better, but this fast? Who knows!

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Smoking near kids play equipment really…

I have hated this for years and yesterday after moving 2 different times in 10 minutes away from smokers while my child played on playground equipment just really pissed me off.
I am sitting on the bench right next to the playground equipment at our local park with my 8 month old in my arms and TWICE I had two different adults walk up with their kids and pretty much blow smoke in mine and my infants face. Seriously…what the heck?

I don’t care that people are smoking at the park but why do they feel that they got to smoke within 5-10 feet of children’s playgrounds and expose me and my children to their second hand smoke? I was so frustrated by the time I left I wanted to hit a wall, plus it stinks! All I can chalk it up to is ignorance and selfishness. Kill yourself not my children.

Sorry for the brutal remarks but this really does make me mad.

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Why do health professionals want us to starve our infants…

They freak out if you don’t stick to the textbook facts on eating, well facts are only statistics and statistics change and are not studied on every population group. In fact almost all studies on children are done in population groups of like 100 and can you really tell me those 100 children is enough? Kids are so different that this number is definitely not high enough.
I have an MS in Nutrition and learned beyond the medical field. Just because you are a physician does not mean that you have had extensive training on everything. This is why physicians work with nutritionists and dieticians hand in hand. In fact we had a retired physician in our Masters program and he was there because he said he always wanted to know more about it but never got the chance while he was in practice.

Both my children had less colic when starting on solid foods. They ate 6 ounces of formula every 2-3 hours after the age of 3 months and this is not healthy. Too much formula is not good either. I had to add in rice cereal starting at 2 weeks old. Only small amounts like 1 tsp at a time 1-2 times a day so they were still getting their nutrition from formula. When the feedings were getting too close together again I would up the formula a little along with the cereal. At 4 months both children started on oatmeal. At about 4 ½ months started vegetable stage 1 baby food or made my own. I did not introduce fruit at all until 6 months and NO fruit juice until a year and never out of a bottle.

Both my kids are healthy, at normal weight, and happy. Neither of my kids have fat rolls nor do they not stuff themselves. Overeating is a learned behavior; children are not born with it and will only eat until they are satisfied at young ages. Adding solids when their hunger increases will help them feel satisfied for longer periods and not teach them to engorge themselves every 2-3 hours.

Another thing to consider is that most of the studies done about bottle feeding solely for the first year are done by formula companies, go figure. They use to say that you only had to bottle or breast feed for 6 months and then it went to a year. Infants grow so fast and need more nutrition when they are going through their growth spurts.

This is just my opinion but it bothers me that I have to lie to my pediatrician about what I feed my kids for that first year because the first time I told them the truth I got the 3rd degree. I have never told my pediatrician that I have a masters in Nutrition because I figure “what is the point.” I know that I am not hurting my kids; in fact my son went from colicky to pleasant in about a half a day from starting him on rice cereal. He is now almost 8 months old and eats all baby food. He should not even be starting baby food until now according to the medical field. As of last week he was perfectly in line with all the statistical charts.

Again this is my own opinion and if anyone has a question about when to start their infant on any type of solid food that is something that needs to be addressed by each individual separately.

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Don’t park behind other houses driveways…

For years we have had a huge problem with our neighbor’s friends parking right behind our driveway. I have been very careful and very lucky since 2004 but my luck changed last about a week and a half ago.

My neighbor’s car was not totally parked behind my driveway but it was halfway behind my driveway, the front half of the car. There car was dark blue and it was 9pm at night and dark, and I had to other cars parked on my side of the road on either side of my driveway. I really did not even see the car behind me and backed my car into theirs. Ugh, I was so pissed. They did not even here me hit it and like every other human I thought, hmm, maybe I should leave, but I can’t do that. I walked up to the door and knocked and told them I hit their car.

Just when my insurance premiums are nice and low, here I go hitting a car! It least the car was drivable and she drove it home and I am not claiming my car because just the back tail light got busted and the bumper scraped. Not worth the deductable to fix.

Moral of the story…don’t park behind any driveway especially when there are cars parked on either side of it already. It was my fault for hitting the car, I know, but I think I would have maybe missed hitting her car if there won’t so many stinking cars parked all around my driveway. Lesson learned I guess.  Oh ya, and it figures because we finally paid the car off!

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Can’t believe my baby girl is four…

My baby girl turns 4 years old in like 3 hours. I cannot believe this is happening. I was looking at her laying on my bed the last few nights and she is so long! When did she grow so big and where is my little girl?

It feels like yesterday she was my little infant baby girl sleeping on my chest and coohing. You always heat that kids grow up so fast and you just never really realize it until you have your own kids.

I can’t wait for her to wake up in the morning and be so excited about her birthday day. We will have family time tomorrow and the big party on Sunday.

Love you peanut!

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Jamie Oliver is my hero…

I finally watched the preview of Jamie Oliver’s food Revolution and he has officially become my new hero. I support everything he is doing 100%.

I really hope that the US takes this education and incorporates the better food into our school system. We have way too many obese kids in our country and we definitely need to do something.

I would like to know who makes the guidelines for our schools meals because as I watch these episodes it just makes me cringe. First of all they tell him that even though he is serving brown rice with his meal, he needs to have a bread too? What…seriously. They then pulled out a bunch of white bread and served the refined sugar to the kids and this is supposed to be a healthy guideline? Please, this is ridiculous.

Another guideline that has potential to be good is that they do require 1 ½ cups a vegetables for each high school student. The school system actually counts French Fries as this vegetable. That is not a typo and I am still sitting here with my jaw to the floor saying, what the heck?

I would love to help America re-write their guide lines because the guidelines they have are “crap.” I really hope that Jamie has it in him to help change our screwed up nation and its eating habits.

Jamie I support you all the way!

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