I am no expert but my opinion is that Christmas chopping does NOT have to be so difficult. I have a novel idea and a very easy formula to make Christmas shopping easier and help you spend a lot less time in the hustle and bustle of hoards of people. Get a pen and paper and get ready to take some notes. Are you ready? Here it goes……don’t forget to write this down…….ASK!
There you go, pure ans simple and to the point. Ask! It’s simple and easy and you may find that it takes a lot of stress off you. I do this…really!
I used to spend hours trying to find that “perfect” gift and I would get frustrated and spend days and days on just a few little things that should have really only taken a handful of hours to find. I decided a few years ago after many years of thinking I had the perfect gift, and finding out later, it was not so perfect, that all I needed to do was ask. This way it puts it on the giftees shoulders. If they chose to make you guess and not tell you what they want, do not feel bad that they don’t like it because it is not your fault that they did get what they wanted, it’s theirs.
I do not see the importance or reason to force yourself to “know” what everyone wants and then get upset or hurt when you find out that people do not respond to your gift as you think they will. There are a few occasions when asking may not be appropriate and this can be in romantic relationships. There are times that I would like to have my husband just buy me something nice or pretty and I want to know that he truly thought about it and bought it with his heart. It is these gits that I am not expecting any certain thing, I just want to know that he is thinking about me.
We should not HAVE to do this with every relationship in our lives, really. We should be able to send a text or call someone and say “hay, I want to get you a gift that you really want, can you give me 2-3 suggestions?” I don’t know why but their are people in my life that just refuse to do this and they start shopping in Oct or Nov and do not get done until Dec 23 or 24th. They are pissed off and stressed all the time and shopping with them sucks, so I don’t go. Does this sound healthy?
This year I wanted a Mothers ring, and a specific mothers ring, and instead of dropping hints and expecting my husband to figure them out I simply said, I am buying this mothers ring for Christmas, with your money, is that OK? He was ecstatic that I did not make him pick it out. He still gets to buy me a present but I am so excited to be getting what I have been longing for over the past couple of years.
I hope that everyone has a very merry christmas and that you get everything you want. For me, it is my family together, with a fire, and watching Christmas movies. That is what I want the most. Oh and hugs and kisses too!
