Did I lose my identity when I became a Wife/Mom?

I hope you will share!

I have struggled with this time and time again as I was/am a very career oriented woman.

Looking back:

• I moved away from everything I knew to a state 1800 miles away to start a new career.

• I met my husband who lived 70 miles north of me and moved to him when we got married as he had a daughter who was under 18 and I did not want to take her away from seeing him as much as possible.

• I got married had a baby, quit my job and became a stay at home Mom.

• I LOVE being a stay at home Mom but suffered, and still a bit but better, with my identity as a career woman.

There is my history. I am my worst enemy when it comes to this as the only person who thinks that the identity is/was gone is me.

I have always strived for the degrees and the recognition but never understood that I could be totally fulfilled raising my kids and putting my career on hold.

For the first few years I resented my husband pretty much daily and felt like he took something away from me….my identity. What I have come to realize and am still realizing every day is that he did not take it away I just have a new one and that will change over the years as our kids grow and we all venture into new things.

I have realized as well, about myself that this is mostly a selfish attitude I am portraying. I am worried too much about me and was enjoying the wonderful life that is sitting right in front of me.

I have spent so many so many years focusing on me and my career that I have had a hard to seeing the other side of things.

I have finally started embracing my life, today’s life, and stressing over what I had, or chose, to give up. CHOICE being the key word.

It has taken a while but I am seeing the light and enjoying my kids, my husband, and beginning to celebrating my life!

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2 Responses to Did I lose my identity when I became a Wife/Mom?

  1. Toni says:

    I think every woman goes through that at some point. The trick is realizing that you aren't really giving up anything–just trading one good thing for another. My favorite name is "mom" and whatever else I am or will be, it is only temporary. We retire from jobs, classes end, peple move on, but "mom" is forever. Its a wonderful thing!

  2. Mrs. Organic says:

    What a great perspective!

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