I have struggled with this time and time again as I was/am a very career oriented woman.
• I moved away from everything I knew to a state 1800 miles away to start a new career.
• I met my husband who lived 70 miles north of me and moved to him when we got married as he had a daughter who was under 18 and I did not want to take her away from seeing him as much as possible.
• I got married had a baby, quit my job and became a stay at home Mom.
• I LOVE being a stay at home Mom but suffered, and still a bit but better, with my identity as a career woman.
There is my history. I am my worst enemy when it comes to this as the only person who thinks that the identity is/was gone is me.
I have always strived for the degrees and the recognition but never understood that I could be totally fulfilled raising my kids and putting my career on hold.
For the first few years I resented my husband pretty much daily and felt like he took something away from me….my identity. What I have come to realize and am still realizing every day is that he did not take it away I just have a new one and that will change over the years as our kids grow and we all venture into new things.
I have realized as well, about myself that this is mostly a selfish attitude I am portraying. I am worried too much about me and was enjoying the wonderful life that is sitting right in front of me.
I have spent so many so many years focusing on me and my career that I have had a hard to seeing the other side of things.
I have finally started embracing my life, today’s life, and stressing over what I had, or chose, to give up. CHOICE being the key word.
It has taken a while but I am seeing the light and enjoying my kids, my husband, and beginning to celebrating my life!