There are pros and cons to every situation. There are many pros for me for waiting to have kids at an older age; finished with College, no mid life crisis, maturity and many more. There is one con though and that is that most of mine and my husband’s friends are either close to or are now empty nesters. They are in their late 30’s to early to mid 40’s and they are kid free and still young enough to start playing again. This is hard for me and my husband, especially my husband because he does have a 20 year old daughter and now he is going through the whole kid thing again. Don’t get me wrong he wants and is very happy having a family because there are a lot of things he missed out on when his daughter was younger, there are just obstacles.
Another problem we are facing is that I have been so career oriented for a long time and this has been a very hard adjustment for me to stay home. I get cabin fever pretty easily and I need to get out too. I take 2 dance classes a week, Mondays for 90 min and Thursdays for 45 min. It does help other then my husband has to go out of town from Tuesday to Wednesday every week, so it seems like we are missing each other lives during the week. It is wearing on our relationship as we are going to have to try harder to make the time we are all together as a family very worthwhile.
Everything will work out and be fine I know there are just days when it just seems very tough and this last couple days has been 2 of those. My husband is a great husband and father, believe me, we just need to figure out a schedule that works for all of us. I know that when the kids get to school age and start doing everything this time of our life won’t seem so hectic right? One day at time!
