So my husband is a good man, he really is, he just has a problem thinking ahead when it comes to gifts etc. He is always thinking about the hobby store and his planes as he can’t stand not to go into a store at least once a week and tell me “what I need to fly my plane” etc.
So Valentine’s Day comes around and I have his card for about a week. He has nothing. It is not like we expect gifts from each other, but a card? Seriously? We do that every year and this year he had to be reminded and his reminder was my card. He always decided to go get me a card and/or a gift on my birthday day as well. But don’t let that fool you, it is not that he just does not think of shopping because he does all the time when it comes to him but the only stores he thinks of are, hobby center, goodwill, big lot’s and micro center. I have to hear all the time “I really need this for my plane, for my computer, blah blah blah.”
So the Valentine’s thing did bother me because just once I would like to be remembered. Yesterday I told him that it hurts me when he has to have me remind him to think of me so if he can’t do this on his own I was done getting him birthday cards and presents and on other occasions as well.
I guess I can’t continue to be mad at him all the time because he is not doing what “I” want him to do so I need to quit going out of my way and maybe that will make me feel better. If I don’t expect it at all maybe I won’t get so upset? He felt a bit uncomfortable with the conversation I could tell, but if this does not need to be a problem in our marriage then I am not going to make it a problem anymore. I will give him one more chance on Mother’s day and my birthday this year since they are literally just a couple weeks apart. If nothing changes then I have to change. I can just shop for myself from now on.
