Terrible two’s is so not a correct statement. My daughter was an Angel at 2, seriously. 3 ½ hit and BAM whiny tantrum girl that constantly tells me know has come out full force.
I seriously feel like I am yelling at her all the time and I hate it. I try and try to reason with her and explain all the time why not to do things etc. and she just does not give me a break and listen. I am finding myself punishing her for the same fight every day.
I have made a discipline chain out of paper and every time she gets really bad a paper is added and something is lost. Like her rocking horse and remote control car. She has not had them back in days and she cries when I take them away but obviously it is not doing its job.
I tried for months to take away the TV, computer, candy etc. and that has not worked either.
She really is a nice child but I am not really sure how to handle these tantrums and undermining actions right now. Those of you that have gone through this with your girls please give me some advice.
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Thanks!
I think it is important for little kids to have alone time with their parents. My oldest daughter loves to read, so I would try to make extra time just for that. Positive reinforcement is always the best option!!! Good luck:-)
Tawna, We went through that, too. As much as that is just a hard age, it is enhanced with a baby sibling. Try to take her out by herself, if you can. Spend a whole day together. Take her to lunch, maybe to a movie or someplace she loves. Ethan and I do that once in a while and it really helps! Josh looked at me like I was crazy one day when Ethan was just being so nasty and I asked him if he needed a hug. Well, it helped both of us calm down. Haha…but that stuff doesn't always work.
Of course, he has spent a lot of time in his room screaming it out. I just had a coversation about this over the weekend. Even if you're yelling at her, it is attention. When she starts a confrontation, try to just tell her to come with you, take her by the hand and lead her to her room, or the corner, or the steps…and make her stay there for a few minutes. I always make my kids say they're sorry, and tell me why they're sorry.
Sometimes, they turn around and do it again, sometimes not. Either way, everyone has a bad day, right?
Most importantly, know that you are not the only one who is going through this. Your kids aren't awful, and neither are you. It is overwhelming to be a mother of two some days. Things will get easier in 20 years or so….LOL.
Love ya! Kristy
Sorry to hear your frustration. I guess giving her chocolate and a jack & coke is probably not a good idea. That always calms me down during my breakdowns! 😉 Hang in there!