Random Thoughts

I gave myself some homework a couple weeks ago and decided that where ever I went I was going to walk with my head up and a smile on my face and say “Hello” to everyone I met, whether I felt like it or not.

This really has not been too hard but there were a few days I just did not feel like doing it but I forced myself. You know what I realized?
I realized that forcing myself to smile and look at people helped change my mood rather quickly. About 98% of the time others would smile back and I had a lot of great conversations with great people.

I actually have wanted to get out of the house at the end of my husbands work day just so I could go out and meet some new people. When you are with small children all day long, it can get a bit lonely for adult conversation and this new attitude I was portraying has helped with that void.

I am doing this at the grocery store, mall, and even on walks when I have my kids.

So next time you are feeling down and depressed and lonely then may I suggest making a point to smile talk, and compliment others and the come back here and tell me how your day changed to better. I am willing to bet it does. I am going to keep doing this.

Oh and my kids are seeing this first hand too which is cool. I still give them the “don’t talk to stranger’s” talk but I do it a little different.

I tell them that if a stranger approaches them that is different then smiling and saying hello to someone. Unfortunately, in this world, we do have to put a little bit of fear into our kids when it comes to stranger’s but that does not mean that we need to make them scared of walking down the road or at the store and saying hello and nice to meet you to people. This is a fine line I am playing around with to find the right solution!  I get compliments all the time on how friendly and sweet my daughter is and I really owe that to my journey to positive thinking!

Have a great weekend and make a point to  make ONE new friend today. If you make more then that is even better!

Tawna

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There was one piece of trash in particular that instigated this whole post….a cigarette butt. Why you may ask? Well…my daughter was trying to pick it up! Ewwwww….gross I know but she did have her reason.


We met a couple, very nice actually, on the corner waiting for the light to change so we could walk across. They happened to be smoking and I was trying t to be rude but I did not want my kids right in the middle of the smoke and was happy the light changed quickly. They walked in front of us and as we came upon the next corner the guy threw his finished cigarette on the sidewalk. My daughter immediately bent over to pick it up and I told her “don’t touch it!” For one it was still lit and that would hurt and the other we were right on the corner of a busy street, and lastly, we don’t know where that guys hands of been!

She proceeded to say, very loudly, “Well Mom, I live in this town and he just littered it up, I want to throw it away!” At first I said “shhh be careful what you say out loud.” Then after I said that I told her, “i am sorry, you are right that was wrong and you do deserve a clean city. The cigarette butt is almost in the street and still burning, I wanted you to be safe and not pick it up.” We were half a block away from this time and if I could do it different I would. I would have stepped on the stinking butt and wrapped it in a baby wipe and thrown it away for her. Why is it that we (I) as an adult are worried of what our kids will say when what they are saying is true. Why should be be OK living in a dirty world just because we are scared to piss off those littering it up!

We have picked up trash before and thrown it away, this situation just seemed different to me at the time.

What my 5 year old said makes you think doesn’t it? She is 5 and I am pretty sure the guy who threw the butt was at least 25 years old. You would think that another 20 years of life experience would teach him not to litter. 

I am not trying to offend smokers, believe me, I am sick and tired of all the litterers thinking its OK to throw their trash out for others to pick up. News flash, it doesn’t just disappear someone is being your Mother and cleaning up after you. AND this is not always happening either and that is why there are certain places with a whole lot of trash.

This is our world, why don’t we treat it with respect and use the trash can, the ash trays in our cars, etc. that are meant to be used!

Thanks for letting me share my opinion today!
Happy Thursday to everyone!

Tawna

Have any of you been out with someone and as soon as you sit down, SMACK, the cell phone gets put on the table. “Hmmm, I guess they are waiting for a better offer,” is what I always think of.

I get that if you have kids at home and you want the babysitter to be able to check in with you then that is OK but don’t answer every stinking text and call from everyone else when I am with you. I used to do this and after a few times it just hit me “I am being so rude!” so I have stopped. I especially do not even take it our if my hsuband is with the kids because if an emergency arises than he is quite capable of taking care of it. I always tell hime where I am at so if it is a dire emergency then he can get ahold of me. Isn’t that how we did things 205 years ago before phones?

I can’t stand going out with those who are text addicted. I find myself watching them text, laugh, and entertain themselves more with their phone than with me. OK so if I am so boring than please do not ask me to go anywehre anymore because I don’t want yu to sacrifice your time from your “real” friends.

I have actually started turning my ringer off and charging my phone in the other room in the evening and not worrying about who is texting me when I am watching movies with the family, playing games, etc. No on else is more important than them!

Another big pep peeve i have is talking on the phone while getting help from customer service in a store OR while checking out. come on people..really?! Are you so important that you have to take a call in the middle of a conversation? There is this feature called “missed a;;” or “voice mail.” Use it.

Now when there are times I have tried and tried to get ahold of someone and they do call I ignore the call and call them right back. If I am on one line and they ring through the other line I will say “Oh I have been trying to get ahold of this company all day, can I call you back?” However, if it is just another friend etc I say “oh that is just so and so, I will call them back late.” That way my friend I am talking to does not feel less important then the call coming through.

All I am saying is that there are right and wrong times to be addicted to your phone. It kills me how many times I just watch people and see this happening all over. I just wish that etiquette for phones would come back and that people would be more mindful of other people!

Have a great day!

Tawna

I know that I have told you before about my friend weeding and I have actually found that I really have not had to make much of an effort to do this lately.
I have noticed that my “negative” friends in my life are not really making a point to keep in touch with me either. I am thinking that, what makes sense, is that when you are unhappy, happy people just seem to irritate you even more and make you uncomfortable, so you leave them alone. Is this making sense to anyone else out there?

I know that I used to vent about such happy people in my life when I was angry all the time. So maybe now my positive outlook is driving those nuts that are not on my same path. Too bad isn’t it? I wish that everyone in my life was on this same journey, it is just such a happier place to be!

Not that I am bragging and thinking that I am the “bomb” or better then anyone else. I am merely stating what seems to be happening in my life and I can’t complain about it. Maybe one day those old friends will see my change and want it too and we can reconnect again on a more positive note and build each other up instead of bringing each other down. That is my hope anyway!

I hope you are all having a positively positive day!

Tawna